How will I help you?
To be honest, I don’t think matters HOW I can help, what matters is that you get the change you are looking for (what ever that is.)
However, it is human nature (especially for the types of people who come to see me) to want to go into a lot more detail about what might happen? Does it work? How will he do it? Will I be in control? Etc. etc. When I think a more appropriate approach you might take may be;
“I don’t know what will work, and I don’t want these problems any more, therefore I should try anything to overcome them!”
But in reality, the type of client I usually work with is complex and likes to research everything before they take action! They are usually;
- They think a lot
- They are creative
- They are controlling (sometimes don’t realise it though)
- They are overwhelmed by emotions (or have numbed their emotions)
- They have complex personality types
Therefore, I have written lots of information about many of the types of therapeutic interventions I use, however, you don’t really need to know about them, you just need to be doing them 🙂
My philosophy & therapeutic outlook
My job is to lessen your emotional discomfort, whilst enabling you to take back control of your feelings and importantly, your actions. Because then you’ll have choice in your life, no longer the victim of the unconscious thoughts and emotions that seem to hijack us and can so often hold us in an uncomfortable and unmotivated state.
To do this I use a whole range of therapies and therapeutic techniques, because in my experience ‘one size does NOT fit all’ and the best therapy is ‘the one that works for you.’ My education and background is science based, so I am keen to apply tested formulas to get change, however, experience has taught me that the unconscious mind is a fickle beast and responds to a whole range of diverse interventions. So, that’s what I use.
To me, it’s all about the unconscious mind, that part of us that controls most of what we do and certainly ALL of what we feel, both good and bad. The trouble is, the unconscious does not respond to language very well, so when we say “I really must stop this” it seems to fall on deaf ears.
Most anxiety based complaints are the unconscious mind telling you (with feelings and sabotaging actions) that a part of you is unhappy and you should listen to it. So, I teach you ways of understanding how to work with your unconscious mind where it is possible to get profound emotional changes.
Problems versus Symptoms
Over the years the many of my clients have said “John, I have a problem” and then they proceeded to tell me all about a symptom – for example, “I have this problem, I’m feeling depressed” – and it’s true they are feeling depressed, but what underlying problems have instigated those feelings of depression in the first place? Circumstances, past experiences, chemical imbalances, relationships, self esteem, career, just feeling lost, out of control internal dialogue, pain, medical complaints, lack of a bright compelling future – the list goes on….
Treating the Whole You
To make lasting changes it is important to treat the whole person, mind, body, spirit, soul, conscious, unconscious the whole nine yards – It’s a 3 step process.
Self-awareness • Therapy • Direction
Self-awareness – What type of a person are you? How do you feel about yourself? What conflicts might be going on inside you that you are unaware of? Do you need to be liked? Do you dislike conflict? Are you comfortable speaking your mind? Do you try to protect other people’s feelings?
So, the first step is to understand more about yourself, to recognise that it is reasonable easy these days to map out your characteristics and become far more self-aware. This understanding allows you to see why you react in certain ways and elegantly allows you to gain new perspectives of how you unconsciously operate and develop new more appropriate (unconscious) behaviours.
Therapy – Once your problem (not symptom) has been identified and your self awareness can see new ways to think, new ways to behave, then the therapy can begin. Using a range of safe therapies, such as, Hypnotherapy, EFT, Time Line Therapy, NLP, Cognitive Therapy, we update those old unconscious responses. I teach you many of these techniques too, so they are always available and become part of your own ongoing personal development.
Finally, we come to a part of the process that (in my opinion) is so often ignored – Once you are feeling more emotionally secure, more confident, more in control of your feelings and actions – what are you going to do with your life?
What are your goals? What are your values? What do you want to do? When? Where? How? With who?
Because many people go through a therapeutic intervention, feel better, then go straight back to the same life that kicked off the problems in the first place – and worse still, do the same things – and around the loop they go.
Direction – As part of the whole process I work with you to get a better understanding of ‘who you really are’ and we tease out a better understanding of ‘who you want to be’ and ‘what you want to do.’
This is one of the most important aspects of any change work – and one that I am dedicated to helping my clients understand and adopt (if they wish) – it’s not easy, but it is possible and the results are remarkable.
A journey of self awareness and change
So, it’s a journey, self discovery, understanding how the unconscious works, finding things out about yourself, improving self esteem, learning to love yourself more – Changing in so many ways – most importantly taking control of your emotions, because this gives you choices – what you then do with this new confidence is up to you!
Free initial consultation
The best outcomes occur when the client and the therapist feel comfortable with each other so I always like to chat for a while with each client before they chose to proceed. You are welcome to call me anytime or we can meet face to face for a confidential and obligation free discussion, then you decide what is right for you.